TAN #134: Step AWAY from the TANgent line. (Page 26)

Kido - 2011-01-27 12:27 PM



I think you might have been the first NON local BTer I ever met.  And even then, I had only met maybe 4-5 locals...

mr2tony - 2011-01-27 10:35 AM That was, like, three years ago? Dang.

lisac957 - 2011-01-27 12:47 PM

Wow I don't remember who the first BTer was that I met in person... probably LindaKC?
I'm so old.
 

lisac957 - 2011-01-28 1:47 AM Wow I don't remember who the first BTer was that I met in person... probably LindaKC?
I'm so old.
 

mr2tony - 2011-01-27 12:49 PM Oldie McOlderson

hangloose - 2011-01-27 12:58 PM

So...Tony...you're like the tour guide of the TAN?  

lisac957 - 2011-01-27 1:04 PM



This is how big of a dork I am - I just looked.
I knew I met Linda at a race and yep it was in a 2007 race report. OLD BALLZ right here!!

The next year, 2008, was when I met the "cool kids" at Kansas 70.3 - Tony, Jazz, AmyJo, etc.

Big Appa - 2011-01-27 12:59 PM The FIRST Bter I met was Tony because he is the one that came to the train stop to get me but I met up with Monica, Jim, Cheri, and the next day Aidana.... I don't even remember what happened that weekend

blueyedbikergirl - 2011-01-27 1:11 PM



I was there? 

Ohhhhh wait - yep, I still have photographic evidence from that. 

Map of Hawaii. 

mr2tony - 2011-01-27 11:13 AM All over my back, ahole.

Kido - 2011-01-27 12:06 PM

I think it's a trust issue...

I have nothing to hide, but it bugs the CRAP out of me when she get's into my phone or onto my FB page...  It's not that I demand privacy, but I should also just be given it...  It's a pet peeve of mine.  What sucks, is when I have to play 20 questions about who or why someone it sending me a message.

To be honest, I don't ask or even CARE to look at her stuff.  I don't feel the need to.  She doesn't do anything for me to not trust her.

I try to have the conversation with her "what if I questioned every TM/tweet/fb post you get?"  I would be "questioning" her 24/7.  Granted, when a TM comes at 1am????  I'm like "who the eff is TMing you at this hour?".  But I don't push for an answer.  It's more of an expression of my unhappyness.

I think privacy should be respected and there should be trust between spouces/bf-gf.

Let me caveate...  If there is a bad feeling?  Or if one or both persons are starting to act odd?  Basically, if something is "up"???  I think looking is not as good as having a conversation, but within reason.

mr2tony - 2011-01-27 1:13 PM All over my back, ahole.

lisac957 - 2011-01-27 1:48 PM

FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 

lisac957 - 2011-01-27 1:48 PM FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 

lisac957 - 2011-01-27 2:48 PM

FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 

mr2tony - 2011-01-27 2:54 PM



Is that a new dance?

lisac957 - 2011-01-27 1:48 PM FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.
 

lisac957 - 2011-01-27 11:48 AM FILL is definitely my stalker

I asked the question cause I have a good friend whose girlfriend told him she'd been snooping, and now he's having some trust issues. They went through some other trust issues recently, so to him, now it seems like she is looking for more reasons to "catch" him doing something wrong.

I told him... CLEARLY you are not in the Trust Tree. Which is understandable considering their situation.
 
I just wonder how long this behavior should be allowed to go on? To be fair to her, he DID do something to break her trust. But is she allowed to stalk his privacy for the rest of their lives, trying to catch him?

To me, you either trust someone or you don't. If you can't trust them enough to not snoop when you have the opportunity, you need to re-evaluate your relationship.

And yes, I've snooped before.