First rude pregnancy comment (Page 3)

I have a friend who intentionally did not tell anyone what she was naming her 2nd baby for this reason.

She had some family members that openly did not like the name she picked for her 1st. So she just told everyone that she was undecided about a name for her 2nd even though she had already picked the name. She was pretty convincing too. I really thought she was having a tough time picking a name and it turns out she'd picked one in her 1st trimester.

If you really want to make the rude people uncomfortable, just simply say "I'm not pregnant." They will feel tiny.

I going to steal that if I'm ever pregnant.

We haven't told anyone the name (except for our parents and my sister) for that EXACT reason !

We named our children Savannah and Austin.  We did happen to live in Austin, TX at the time.  When we traveled back to Rhode Island to visit family, the wife's uncle blurted out, "So were they named after place of conception?"  I replied, "They are not named elevator and backseat!"  The wife kicked me under thet able but her uncle and I get along really well now.  ;-)

It's not Cozumel, is it?

My wife and I had a consensus.
We preferred rude comments over all of the people who thought they would "bond" by sharing all of their horror stories and expect you to continue a conversation by partaking in the whining.
Our doctor, personal research, and close friends will tell us what we really need to know.
We will not share that stuff with random women in the super-market line.

LMAO at that response you gave!

OMG - what is it that when you are pregnant every woman has to tell you how horrible her delivery was??? gee that is so encouraging.

That kind of encouragement I can do without thank you!!!!

My wife's first delivery actually had serious complications and resulted in a successful, emergency C-section.

My wife does not advertise this, and she is matter of fact when she talks about it.

Women who had easier deliveries love to ask her a million questions to compare their "horrific" yet perfectly normal deliveries to my wife's.

Some of them actually look upset when they realize how much worse the facts of my son's delivery were, but how little my wife complained compared to them...

we did the same thing. Nobody knew what we were considering for names until she was born. Although that just wound up causing all the "so why won't you tell me?" questions which were almost as bad.

My wife was rather large and started REALLY showing early on. She got sick of all the belly touching and stupid questions, so whenever someone (except for friends and coworkers) would ask something or try and touch her belly, she would just act all offended and tell them "I'm not pregnant, I'm just THAT fat". She did it once while we were shopping for baby stuff in babies-r-us. It was priceless.

You couldn't have said it better. We had EVERYONE asking us what we were naming our daughter and/or what the initials were. We caved and gave them the initials but told them any and all guesses would be NO. They can wait to find out when she's born. And actually, the doctor found out when we went into the OR. She asked the wife what she should call her when she delivers her, and then we told her.

3hrs later, after the recovery and we were in the room with the family, we told them. Tough, but that's how it was. We didn't want to hear the crap about origins and whatnot!

My daughter is now 1 month old now and the questions/comment from others still haven't stopped. Just the other day at the grocery store, our daughter started whimpering. Some old woman showed up and told my wife, she better shove that pacifier in her mouth so she'll think it's a boob and start working on it, or she'll just keep crying.

Yet, she then questioned her size and whether or not my wife was breastfeeding.  Without missing a beat, my wife cut her down to size telling her it was none of her business whether or not she was breastfeeding.

So, sadly, be prepared.

You should see the chick I work with...now she is HUGE! and she is 8 months preggo but was this big at 5months LOL

You are having a baby - I'd be proud to be HUGE. I guess for me not being able to get pregnant, I would have wanted to shout to the world - Hey, I'm pregnant !!
And if all else fails, feel better knowing you can answer that you are in fact pregnant. My son and I were standing in a checkout line when he announced to me (and anyone within ear shot)  that the lady behind us was 'having a baby'. The woman was NOT pregnant but instead overweight. LOL

I learned purely by accident to never comment on a pregnant lady's belly.  This came about because I asked a friend of my Wife's at her Bunco part when she was due...due for what she replied.  Uh Oh.  So from now on unless that babies crowning I am not making any assumptions.

My favorite was "WOW, you're big as a house...and still walking!" I went home and bawled my eyes out.


And when that baby is an adult it keeps going....I hear "You don't LOOK like you could have a 19 year old, did you have her when you were 16?"

The rude comments will continue up to delivery and beyond as everyone has said.  I had an older women ask me at 6 months if I was having twins.  When I replied no her response was "Good lord you are huge for one baby!"  She was a patient that I was treating.  I proceeded to go to the back office and cry (yes I WAS emotional/hormonal at the time).  Looking back I wish I was quick with a reply right back at her.  Be prepared to respond to the worst of comments and they won't bother you as much.
Enjoy the rest of your pregnancy!!
 

When it came to names we told others (and ourselves) that we had not name picked out and wouldn't until the bozo was born.  You can't name it charlie until you make sure it doesn't look like a fred, can you?

Um, look at it this way.

If you are petite, and are rather pregnant, the belly will be rather obvious.

If you were  say 300# and pregnant, nobody would notice or think your belly looked about ready to burst out a baby. 

You could maybe take it as a compliment if you realized the observation was because of the contrast between the room the baby was actively occupying vs. your small frame.

-eric