Tan #86 - I told you so... (Page 37)

Ironically, probably the best benefit comes from divorce and bifurcated alimony.

Edited by Johners 2009-11-19 11:05 AM

Have I mentioned I love your avatar.  Caffeine, right?

Completely agree.......these situation can become very complicated!

The weird thing about divorce is they run out and get remarried.....is it different the second time around????  or are the expections more clear????   Or is it that they are just older and wiser and sure of what they want???

I count myself lucky.  I've always had more friends that are guys.  My husband is understanding and it doesn't bother him.

Same here.......

It's ok to have friends that are girls...

Maybe if I just said it. 

I know a girl (one of my wife's coworkers) and ran into her again (with my wife) and realized while talking that "this chick is REALLY cool".  IF I was single, a person I would not mind going out with and getting to know and hang out with.

However, I know my wife is amazing and I want to be with her.  There is NO question about that.

But I started to think, that there are probably a LOT of cool and fun and amazing people in this world that you would like to know more than just as an aquaintance.  It doesn't have to be romantic, but more than just a smile and handshake.  The problem is, once you are married, you can't just go ask someone out on a date!!!!

Does that make sense?  I have no desire to mess around, I'm SO happy.  But I do see the 'limitations' that a marriage imposes.

That's the breaks. Even a hint of impropriety is enough to make a married guy-single girl friendship impossible. It goes back to the old question, `Can men and women ever really be `just friends?'' I think they can because I have female friends I haven't yet fu**ed.

And really, the cool friend can hang out with us when I'm there. I won't complain.

Yeah, it is   It was the first thing I learned to make out of my model set when I was taking organic chemistry

Dems de breaks is right.

But did you want to? That's the kicker.

I have a friend who is probably doing IMKS next year. A few of her guy friends said they would also do it and offered to train with her. She immediately said "no thanks" because she thinks it would be "disrespectful" to her husband to train alone with another guy. What does TAN think about that?

Sounds like she knows how her relationship works with her husband and made her choice.

The real question is..........if you are just friends and an opportunity was presented, from either party involved......would you have the will power to say "NO" this can't happen? and does the relationship change after the encounter?

i kind of agree.  if she were to train in a group, still being the only female, i think it's a diff story, but all that time alone with someone is probably not right.  then again, i'm totally influenced by how i make decisions and it may or may not fit anyone else's goals/values.

4 more hours untill vacation time...  (10 days).

I also have three weeks off in Dec.  Can't wait.

In some cases yes in some cases no. Just because I WANT to have sex with someone doesn't mean it's inevitable. Shoot I can think of about 10 BT girls I wanna bang but that doesn't mean I'm going to go out and do it. I mean, I could now that I'm single, but some of them are married or have boyfriends so that's not an option. Therefore, just friends.

My FBI friends here, for example, I'd never touch them even though they're attractive women. I've never really even thought about it. I mean, I guess Tab P would fit into Slot V but really, they're just friends. I think of them the same way I think of my guy friends here, probably because I knew them before I was divorced.

Anyway I used to train with a young lady and her husband would get all huffy. And he was a very good friend of mine. My wife, on the other hand, didn't give a rat's butt. So it's all about the individual

I actually like change......

How old are you, if I may ask? Do they have age restrictions?

Lisa's boyfriend is an officer in the reserves.

Group training is a different beast.  one on one is a bit different.  I bet I could do it a couple times but then I might start getting questions...

However, my wife does a lot of odd things for her career that would cause a lot questions for many marriages, but I understand the industry...  It also doesn't hurt that most of the guy dancers are gay!