Kido - 2012-10-02 12:21 PM
OK - relationship question.
Went to a party with the promise it wouldn't be late. Everyone there was the wife's friends, so I was pretty much ignored all night. I'm cool with that and can hold my own, and I don't need to be taken care of.
BUT, it's getting later and later. She's getting drunker and louder. I try to say at close to midnight, it's time to go. So she starts making her rounds, then get's swept up in another conversation. 45 minutes later, STILL trying to leave.
By now, I'm getting pissed. But here's my issue. I don't want to be the overbearing husband dragging her away from her friends. I don't want to be the arsehole husband that is so angry at the end of the party that I ruin a good night and make her afraid I'm going to come down on her for having a good time.
This happens a LOT. She just get's into it and breaks all her promises about leaving early or has not one care about my schedule... Drive seperate? Then she get's upset we are not going together.
I want her to think she can have a good time with me, but her friends run on a different schedule. To THEM, a party that starts at 3pm and goes to 3am on a MONDAY is a good idea.
VERY complicated, indeed. I guess as husbands we have to put up with that small issue, considering I'm thinking there are things similar to them that they put up with.
Did this happen in a parallel way with her wanting to go and you didn't leave as planned? Just asking.
I am thinking that you have already had a discussion about this with her and will "nip it in the bud" before the next pah tay occurs? I can't think that it was a "payback" for something, or, not being considerate or not respecting you.
Since my wife doesn't get drunk, this has never happened with us. Even if we went out together, we are the ones to "party poop out" first and leave together, but, we have been caught to talk for another 15 minutes before actually getting out the door.
Caught this before you edited. Oh-oh.
Edited by 1stTimeTri 2012-10-02 12:35 PM