Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 (Page 47)

Maybe I'll spring for the extended warranty on that one

the parole thing might be a legit theory - all of your dates have been weeknights, no?  sometimes people are allowed to serve a jail sentence on weekends only so they can keep their jobs.  maybe THAT'S why his weekend was booked up....

LOL he actually lives 3 hours away but works all week in the city I live in. So he drives home on the weekends. Allegedly.

More conspiracy theories - GO! 

Different wife and family in each city?

secret agent... had to fly to Moscow

I don't think I've ever had anyone ask for feedback. I've had guys text right after the date saying how much they enjoyed it and I'm terrible - I just don't respond if I didn't. I need to get better about that.

Personally I wouldn't mind a guy not paying, but not even offering for just a coffee or latte? Yeah. 

The phone thing would drive me batty, too. I make a point to leave my phone in my purse. To me, checking a phone communicates that whatever might be on there is more valuable than you. Unless there was an emergency situation - like his wife was getting back in town or something 

Sorry I thought of this right away   haha

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hud37Y0f0wE

I am not single so I dont comment on this thread but I read it everyday. IMHO, This would be of concern to me. He works all week in the City you live but lives 3hours away and goes home on weekends? Why does he not move to the city where he works? I work in a county with a large military base that employes tens of thousands of people and alot of them work all week and go home to NJ on the weekends. The reason they do that is because they are married and have children to go home too and sacrifice seeing them during the week so they dont have to uproot their entire family. I am not saying this is what is going on but it doesnt make sense why he just doesnt move to where he works. To pay to live in 2 places is kind of pointless unless there is a really strong reason not to move from your original home. Obviously you have talked to him and know him better then me and probably know other variables involved (how long has he been working in the area, does he plan to move, etc.) but it seems kinda fishy to me. I would suggest (if you havent already) trying to get more info about why the travel. But like I said, thats just my opinion.

He owns a house in the other state and his work is contract - so long term but not permanent. Plus they pay for his hotel and gas mileage so he makes money driving every week. That's what he says anyway... he's said multiple times he would move here if he met the right person, but supposedly it's not worth it right now.

I recently reactivated my accounts, but have yet to get any disdain from my couch.

Well that answers that. I dont know how he does that each week!

I used to work in field service for an engineering company, so I know the life. I can see the temptation to go home when you don't know anyone - it can get real boring on the road over the weekend. However, when you start to make friends and have dates, it gets a lot better, so the drive wouldn't be worth it.

Yep what a scum bag.

Look I'm getting tired of defending this guy. I'm not going to judge his decision to drive back and forth - since I've done the EXACT same thing when I worked in another state away from home base. Granted I only did it for a month, but still. With family, friends, and a HOME - who wants to live in a hotel in a strange city longer than you have to? He's said so many times he's interested in moving here but with selling a house he'd need more incentive than a temporary job. Call me crazy but I'm okay with that thought process.

Thanks for all your input and theories. 

i lived in a hotel for about 8 weeks and it is LAME.  i left town every single weekend because who wants to live in a hotel all alone all weekend?  it's super depressing.  if i were him i would go home too.  maybe consider a friday night date every once in a while, but not even LISA C is worth staying alone in a hotel for 3 days.

i liked this better when we were coming up with ridiculous things like parole and weekend jail.

We need to all put money in a pool and give the winnings to the person who comes up with the correct theory

Alone with Lisa would be damn worth it

Ohh Ohh I want to change mine then.

I'm going with Male Stripper. I had a friend that used to travel a couple of hours every weekend to a different city to do that.

Lisa, when he offers to pay for dinner, does he have a bunch of 1s?

I want the square for "travels home to take his laundry to his mother each week because he doesn't trust anyone else with his dedicates."

In all seriousness, I was a road-warrior for 4 years.  On the road 45 weeks each year (mostly to different cities each week).  The best feeling in the world was to be in my own bed over the weekend.  It really is a rough life.  Sometimes, if I had a few weeks in a row around the Pacific Northwest, I'd ship my bike to Portland or Idaho and make either my weekend home.  That was neat..  

I totally get where this guy is coming from.  And 2 1/2 dates is way too soon to even start to think about (or at least talk about) major life changes/relocation..  

Good luck with this suitor, Lisa!

Yes, agreed. That's why I said "I can see the temptation to go home when you don't know anyone - it can get real boring on the road over the weekend. However, when you start to make friends and have dates, it gets a lot better, so the drive wouldn't be worth it."

This really translates into: Go home on the weekend, unless you have a possibility to go on a date on a Friday or Saturday night with Lisa C.

However perhaps he's playing it cool. Only 3rd date, don't want to seem too interested. I get it.

I'd sequester myself for a weekend if it got me a date with Lisa!  I really hope I was wrong about him being a serial killer.

I'm proving that my online dating method is 100% reliable - I set up my match profile, browsed for a couple days, sent my minimum 2 messages,  and now have real world prospects from each of my 3 gyms.   I bet if I went as far as to mail order a Russian bride, I'd find my soul mate while she was in transit.