My daughter doesn't wanna be my little girl anymore!!

skipg - 2013-01-19 5:46 AM She's 11 and just recently started the transition from my baby girl to tween with an attitude. Im not daddy anymore, now I'm just dad, when I drop her off at school my routine was "I love you have a good day" and she always responded I love you too, now it's just bye, when I go tell her goodnight she won't let my give her a kiss on the cheek anymore, its just goodnight and eating dinner last night I ask her if she wants her friend to come over and play tomorrow...she quickly corrected me that she doesn't play anymore, they just hang out instead! Not sure if I'm ready for this next stage in her life!!

Yup mine is 11, I am still daddy, but it would be nice to have my baby girl back. 

I was very fortunate to not experience this with my daughter during those years. Oh she had extreme mood swings and probably gave her mother most of the grief but her attitude towards me was often very loving and open and she had no problem expressing it even in front of her friends.
I remember she wrote me a card one time when she was around 15 and said in it that she'd always be my little girl. Made me cry.

Now she has a daughter and I get to go through it all again... hopefully.  

If it makes you feel any better, I was a huge pain in the butt at that age. Then, as I met more friends' dads, I realized how cool my dad actually was.

I'm 27 now, and we're close

I feel your pain. Mine is 12. She used to hold my hand out in public. Now, I'm lucky if she within 5 feet of me when we're out somewhere. I used to go to the school to have lunch with her but that's not allowed anymore. Though I'm free to drop out some Burger King and leave whenever I want. 

Ok, for all the boohooing we dads have been doing on this thread, here's some hope for you.

I have the distinct advantage of having kids from age 30 to 12.  It's an advantage because I can tell the rest of you dads who miss their little girls.....you get them back!  They don't forget who the guy is that they can trust completely....and the relationship that develops from that memory is, in some ways, better than it was as it formed.

I run at  least once a week with my oldest daughter......the time is absolutely cherished by both of us, and it always ends with a big hug and an "I love you" that nearly melts me.  

Be the Dad......they eventually get it, and appreciate that you always looked out for them. 

Exactly. Mine are 18 and 16 now. The 11-16  years certainly present their share of challenges. Admitadly I didn't get it when it first started. A good friend and member of the other species explained it in a few very simple words- 'its not about you'. I still can't say I really understand but its like someone gave me the answers to a test I'm not sure I ever would have passed. Be consistent, sympathetic, a good listener, and know when not to fan the flames. They get through it as well as you will, and will come back to being your more grown up little girls again.  

My oldest just had her 13t birthday party last night and this is good to read.  She's always been a great kid, and she definitely still tolerates me being around, but our relationship has changed.  Its nice to be reminded that it hopefully all comes back around some day.

My girl is 11 now and still a daddy’s girl and not into tween stuff at all even though she is already going though the physical changes. I am just trying to establish our boundaries and communication now that she is civil rather than waiting till she is a little brat to start