Ex's Friend's on Facebook?

Kids together? Yes.
No kids together? Probably not. There's a reason she's an ex.

Sure ... why not?

I have a number of "ex's" as friends on FB.  It is not like the information posted there is that "private" ...

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I was still facebook friends with my ex for about 6 weeks after he left me - even though we were not speaking in "real" life. I was still in shock from the sudden and unexpected end of the relationship and just didn't know what to do with that.

Then shortly after our break-up, he started posting pictures of him and another woman, and all our mutual friend started making comments on how great they are together and don't they look happy and are they coming to their party this weekend, etc ... that was too much for me - I unfriended him (and most of our mutual friends). And have never looked back.



Edited to add: Plus - I have so moved on from that part of my life .. I really don't want him and his friends knowing what I'm doing. I'm still hurt and always will be, but I'll never move forward to a good future if I still have one foot in the past.

Edited by SpiritFire 2009-07-31 11:17 AM

Hells no. Speaking personally, of course. I don't even like to utter the name of my ex out loud.

No, i have been asked and ignored the request.  There is a reason they are ex's.

I am friends with most of my exes; we chat and even see each other from time to time and I know their SOB. There is only one I am not friends with yet I have no negative feelings towards her.

I don't see why you shouldn't be friends with an ex if both of you had moved on, both of you still care for the friendship, the friendship is a positive one that make each of you better and both of you genuinely care for each other.

I think there's a difference here between ex-lover vs. ex-spouse. I am friends with an ex but that relationship should have never gone beyond friendship in the first place. The phrase "kissing your brother" comes to mind. And that was a long, long time ago before I ever met my husband. I don't think I'd feel the same "friendly" thoughts about an ex-spouse. There are better ways of communicating in that situation than an FB status update.

Ex what? My adult kids both suggested I add their mother, my ex-wife. I laughed when I got those notices. She is not on my list. We were married, we have kids together, we are civil, but we are not friends.

Personally, I would never have my ex as a friend on FB.  It bugs the stuffing out of me when I know he has been trying to look me up online and find information out about me.

Funny, I am not friends in real life with mine, but we are 'friends' on FB. I mean... I'll say hello and be nice when I see them around, but I do not call them or hang out with them. MUCH like the majority of my "friends" on facebook. I see it as no different than the college friend who I haven't seen in 10 years.

 

Most of the time when things go sour one of use just deletes the other one, however i still have a couple in my friends list and we are civil to each other.

nothing is more satisfying than ignoring an ex's friend request

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Actually I am friends with and regularly communicate with 3 of my Exes on Facebook. For me they were all friends before they were more and we were able to go back to being friends (took some of them longer than others to get there though.)

Heck one of my exes even came to my wedding!

I just went through a rough breakup a few months ago and after being friends for a few weeks we both decided it would be best to un-friend each other for a while.  I coudn't help but think the worst from comments I read on her wall, and would get all antsy when she was online and feel like I needed to talk to her even if I didn't really want to.  I am friends with another ex, but our relationship was shortlived and we didn't speak for a few years.  I see no problem in being FB friends if you just want to say hi or whatever, but if you are looking through photos and reading comments its probably best to not be friends.

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That is the description I have been trying to come up with.  I am friend with is brother, his sister-in-law, his friends (well I am their friend, too), but not friend with him.  I am sure he knows what I have been up to, and I sort of have an idea about him through our mutual friends.  Just that I don't have anything to do with him directly.

For me no catch all policy I still talk to most of my ex GF but not all so i evaluate on a case by case basis. but i put yes because most i am friends with.

I have not talked to my exgfs since the break ups and I am "friends" with all of them on facebook. I realize that some are quasi-stalking me through facebook, especially the messages of "who is this chick with you in that picture?" but I figure its for the best.

Depends on the relationship and the person.  A volatile relationship where I was treated like crap, no I'm not friends with that person.  A relationship that just didn't work out, yeah sure why not, but it depends on the person too.

I admit I'm a Facebook stalker.  Maybe it's my generation, but no one ever unfriends anybody, even people you now hate.  I have several ex-friends on there that I despise but still look at their pics and stuff.  I don't know why, lol.  Curiosity, I suppose.