Got married. What now?

Become a good cook! 

If the cooking were left up to me, we'd have starved to death by now... or we'd be dead.  This may or may not have anything to do with the fire department being called to the apartment twice when I attempted to make something in the kitchen. 

Support her in every way you can, even if you disagree.  Be there for her and give her everything you can.  Time, love, encouragement, friendship.  It's constant giving.

AND, if you got the right girl, she does the same for you.

First (and this may be too late), once you move in together, DO NOT MOVE A FINGER for at least a week. If you, say, take out the garbage by mistake, it will be your task for the rest of your life. If you get up to answer the phone, you will be expected to get up forever!

Second, and am I paraphrasing a what a friend of mine told me the day I got married "Congrats, now you will know what it is like having Pizza even when you don't want to have Pizza"

Enjoy the ride, laugh a lot, and keep the lines of communication open. I just passed the 8 yr mark, and felt like 5 minutes....underwater

I like this.  I am still fairly newly wed but when it comes to married life it really comes down to the day to day - make sure you've worked out the household in a way that works for both of you ... be sure to be talking all the time (no secrets) and when it comes to day to day annoyances - get it out and get it over with.  If you don't like the way she folds socks it's best to 1. either accept it or 2. do the folding.  Trying to control how the other person does specific things (to match your way)  just builds resentment. 

And, to reinforce Kido - it's awesome when you're supporting each other in the things that make them happy - allowing one another to have hobbies, passions, etc will make you even stronger. It's important to spend time together but it's also important to be able to spend time apart. 

And more importantly, don't take yourself too seriously. A sense of humour goes a long way. 

50 years from now, many of the problems will pale in comparison to the joy. 

Marriage is a marathon, not a sprint. 

BTW, congratulations!!!!

If you treat your wife like you treat your best friend, you'll be fine.  Like most things in life it's not that hard, don't make it that way.  Give in on arguments.....because it doesn't matter.  Don't share money.....you'll never argue over it.  Have your own interests...and don't get in the way of hers.  Don't ever be jealous.....it's stupid.  Cook together.  Get her a horse.

This year is 20 for us.

I love this ^.  I haven't heard that before, but, damn, it's the truth. 

It'll be 9 years for me in August, and it hasn't all been great and it certainly hasn't been easy. 

• Admit and own when you're wrong.
• Try to assume that your spouse had the best intentions, even--and especially when--they've royally effed something up.
• Don't forget the little things--nice things you say and do.  Some people appreciate "tasks of service" more than words or physical intimacy.  You both should learn how the other one likes to be shown love, and then show it that way.  This is especially tricky for people who have different "love languages" (not my term, and the title of the book makes it sound horrifically cheesy and the cover is gag-orific, but the message is a good one: http://www.amazon.com/Love-Languages-Secret-That-Lasts/dp/080247315... very easy to take your spouse for granted. Don't.  Is s/he smart? Funny? Hot? Good w/ $? Awesome w/ kids? Whatever it is, let them know you appreciate it.
• When it gets "hard," it doesn't mean it's "bad".

Good luck!