Triathlon Dating Thread (Page 11)

If it's an ugly stranger it's ok though

Of course

Funny, I've found someone who shares all my major interests too - but I swear if he stays up cooking til 2am again, he's in even more trouble than he was this morning! 

I find myself agreeing with TJ in the last few pages... 

Nothing wrong with Match - in fact click to the first few pages of this thread to see all of the Match wedding posts... something about it definitely works in this day and age. That said, there's obviously nothing wrong with the old fashioned way - see someone you like, ask them out. To me, though, it's a huge time saver to be able to have an at-a-glance one-pager (this is what an online profile is, Left) that gives you a general idea of who the person is. If you see things you absolutely know are deal breakers, whew! you didn't waste your time meeting up. That's valuable to me. Not everyone is blessed to have a "love at first sight" moment, fall in love young, and live happily ever after. Those are the lucky ones.

And again, if it's so hard to "imagine" that everyone is different - man that's a rough life. We are all looking for different things in partners and there are different ways of finding and perusing them. All valid, none superior to the other. 

heh heh to love at first sight. I met my husband across a lab bench in in organic chem lab. I thought he was annoying!! He was, however, smart so we wound up lab partners for 2nd semester physical chemistry and study buddies for ODEs. Along the way he became much less annoying.

In the interest of full disclosure, you should add to your dating profile: I will complain that you're here, then ask you to stay.

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I don't need someone to share my interests. I don't need someone to go sailing with me or running or hiking or biking; I have plenty of friends who will join me if I feel like having company. I also don't need to hear whining when I go do the things I enjoy doing. Don't hold me down, unless you enjoy tension and conflict. Which presents another set of problems.

I think when you meet the right person, it's magic. You can't force it, you can't manipulate it. It just happens. If the right person drops on my head, his interests won't matter. How he treats me is what matters. The right person would never ask me to give up who I am or what I enjoy doing. He would never ask me to compromise my values. He will take delight in seeing me happy.

If I am to have a mate again, I want him to be happy and smiling. I want him to be happy with his own life and his sense of self. That's what I bring to the party; my interests are just stuff and they change all the time. I never want to be stuffed inside someone's void, so they can feel less empty.

generic...is so....generic...i'm not sure why "how's it going" is any better than "hello."  since it is no secret you are getting info about her from an online dating profile, why wouldn't you put something that shows you actually read it to catch her attention.  like..."hi fellow dog lover!" or "steelers fans are the best!" 

^^^Winner!!!

It is also the reason I married my husband. He is one of the few men I have ever met strong enough in himself to let me be me and enjoy me for who I am, not who he thinks I should be.

you would be in trouble.  who would date someone that didn't love dogs and the steelers?  gosh!

Here are Match.com's tips for writing a great email. Good stuff too.

http://www.match.com/matchscene/tips.aspx?articleid=4931

I agree - I usually put something about what I read, or what it sounds like we have in common, in the body of the email.  

I have put things in the subject that relate to what they wrote. I have tried everything.  I am not kidding, it's been 5 months and I have not had one date from match.com.  I do notice though that a lot of the emails say "not yet read" so maybe, there's just a large percentage of ladies on match with the "free" accounts and they can't open the emails. 

Either way - I don't really care.  It's not like it crushes me or anything.  I just draw the opinion that match.com sucks, and is a waste of money.  

No sexual innuendos?  Damn it - that's what I've been doing wrong!

I would never date a Steelers fan!!! (Big Ravens Fan here) lol

SOMEBODY DATE ME, PLEASE!!!

Hint: it's circa 1970s.

Another clue please.

She's hot, hates the Cowboys, and is marrying you.

As Meatloaf put it, two out of three ain't bad.

This makes great reading for those of us that work all night.  I sat though 10 pages last night.  NOthing to add

LOL - I think I am addicted to this thread.   

Fixed for you 

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!