Manatees Roar into the 20s! CLOSED (Page 17)

Ooo! Early retirement plan!

In that case, Mike is in

I am married and we have one dog.  Kevin generally supports my training. Kevin mountain bikes but kind of thinks marathons, Ironman, half Ironman, etc. is a little bit crazy.  But yeah, he doesn't get bent out of shape if I get up early to train or if I need to do something after work. We try to coordinate so that my after work stuff is when he wants to mtb anyway. Sometimes, we put Fend For Self for dinner on those nights.

I keep a Google Calendar called Janyne's Training and put all of my upcoming training that I know of. He sometimes references it before making plans (but often not!). I know that he schedules mtb trips when he knows that I have long rides anyway.  (Having a longer term training plan has been helpful in this way -- see also, my Chattanooga 70.3 plans in this thread)

I actually got into long course tri when Kevin was mostly a whitewater kayaker.  He was gone A LOT (there is no whitewater in Raleigh!) and I filled my weekends with long training rides.  We had an elderly dog that couldn't really be boarded at the time so I stayed home with her and rode my bike.

Oh, one other thing.  I select events based on what there is for him to do in the area.  I did the St. George marathon last fall because Kevin wanted to mtb there.  I'm doing the Chattanooga 70.3 because Kevin likes the trails in the area.

Cindy has always been supportive of me when I have decided to train.  With that said, things have gotten a lot easier for me since I retired.  I generally drop her off at the bank and then go to the Y for whatever the schedule demands.

Have you tried to sit down with your wife and work out a calendar that can fill both your needs?  Include her in the planning.  Cindy absolutely loves that I use Google Calendar for pretty much everything outside the gym.  We have shared our calendars across both phones,  just like we have shared the Our Groceries app.  That has reduced some of the overlap.  In our case, the first person to put something in GC has priority over the latter person, unless it is something REALLY important.

Another thing that helped me is that I send her an email every morning after my workout.  It motivated her to ask me to set up a gentler program for her.  So now she has her own planned schedule for 3 days a week, currently 25 mins a day, going to 30 mins a day in February.  It's a 25 minute drive into town for us and I really didn't want to drive in on the weekends but Cindy wanted to do one of her workouts on Saturday because the bank doesn't close until 6 on Fridays.  Now Saturday is our errand day, after she gets her workout in.

Compromise and teamwork is how I've stayed happily married for 38 years.

Thanks for the assist Melanie.  And to you Janyne for opening the door.

No problem! I updated the roster on my Dashboard. 

If you are on Strava, we are over there at at https://www.strava.com/clubs/manatees (not a requirement, just an additional way for us to stalk each other and give Kudos/thumbs up).

Also, feel free to join the JoGo Challenge!

One thing that has worked for me is to think of training time as having Time Slots.  Before work is one time slot. I can run at lunch about once a week so that's another one. Kevin and I have negotiated weekend mornings -- do your own thing and meet for lunch -- so that's two more.  After work is a little trickier if I need to get a ride or run in due to dinner duties.  This time of year, weeknights are negotiated on a week-by-week basis. During the summer, Tues/Thur evenings are typically good time slots.

Have any of you heard from Rob, Jill, or Sherri? I think that they each posted an introduction and then disappeared. Are we really that scary?

I've PM'ed them all and nada.

I'm going to go ahead and remove Jill, Sheri, and Rob from the 2020 Roster.  If they have a change of heart (or schedule or whatever), I'll add them back. 

Every year we have a few people that are enthusiastic joiners for a day and we never hear from again.

Happy Friday Manatees! 

It's such an important discussion on partner support. My DH has done triathlons and running and we both try to make space for one another's training (though he's much more sporadic). That said, we have definitely had some bumps and being in the middle of having small kids and two full-time jobs it's an on-going process. There's always the personal part though. For me, I really always want to be doing everything but that's not realistic and at this point in my life I need to know and prioritize before I impact our family time.  I tend to kind of have a season off then on and have done shorter events than i did before the kids came along. 

Like Janyne, i mostly think in time slots. At this point, the kids go to bed pretty early so i have lunch and after bed time slots to get stuff done. I do my swim training with the local tri club who very conveniently had a session at 8:30pm which is crazy late but is the perfect thing for my family so we can do dinner and bedtime. And that is my only commitment out of the house. Everything else can be done more flexibly or at home. Morning isn't really going to happen with that late swim. I still really need sleep and the kids wake up at 6am. 

So, i do my best to think through what and how my workouts will work and then we usually discuss at some point, particularly for the weekend when workouts get longer/we have commitments to plan around. Communication is always the thing. Not just about logistics but how important the training, how the other sees it (can problematic if they don't see/respect how important it is) and to make sure that both partners' priorities are being met. 

Adam, I think you're right about those reasons for poor retention! I'd also add to the enthusiastic component, that the New Year's start-up of the group often gets those who are just getting back into working out, getting healthy, etc and like many who have great plans for the NY those plans go out the window fairly quickly.  

Thankfully, we do seem to keep a few of the new people!

I've decided to be optimistic and declare my knee area weirdness healed, so I joined the Tour of Sufferlandria!  Any other Sufferfest peeps sign up yet?  

Ann-Marie, I LOVE your signature quote!  I have a close friend (more like a brother) from my penitentiary days who used to say that often.  I have never seen it anywhere else, until now.

Okay, it's been three weeks of yo-yo-ing but I finally broke the 370 mark.  I'd kind of like to get to 365 or less before next week's T2 follow-up with the dr.  I suppose that will be my  life from now on, 6 month follow-ups ad infinitum.

Found another good reason to have my phone with me on my walk/ride days.  I was instantly sold on using Sirius' Classic Rock Workout music.  But today I stumbled onto using my camera to snap the summary screen after my rides.  My Y has three Expresso bikes and I love the ability to ride different courses.  Even better, the Y my brother Jack uses also has them.  He's 5 yrs younger and a LOT more fit, but we could eventually compare rides, if I ever get to the Challenging ones.

Anyway, I have a particular ride that I enjoy which sort of simulates the profile for the Lumberjack tri.  It's called the Alpine Splash.  This month I am using that so I can compare progress between rides.  Rather than trust my faulty memory, for some reason today it dawned on me that I could take a pic of the summary for loading into BT later.  Now I no longer have to wonder if I remembered my mileage correctly, and I can add a metric that I used to watch a lot back in 2012, HR.  Of course, that means that I can only use the one Expresso where it still works.

I'm sure that we can be overwhelming!  Hopefully not scary, though!

Woo hoo!

ToS is up in the air for me. I am hoping that the AppleTV version will be available by then.

Back in November, the developers said "I am really pressing our teams hard to get AppleTV out the door before ToS 2020."  Will they make it or not?

Congratulations!

Thanks! My father used to say it, so i stole it from him