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 2013-02-15 1:39 PM in reply to: #4162190 |
Veteran  513  Chicago (Old Town) |  Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0I was seeing a girl for a few months that kept saying we were "courting." That felt awkward. Really awkward. Anyone else had someone use that word for dating? Where I come from (Austin) you hang out until you're exclusive. Then you're dating. To me, "Dating" means girlfriend/boyfriend. |
| 2013-02-15 1:41 PM in reply to: #4624086 |
Sensei Sin City | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 julio26pt2 - 2013-02-15 11:39 AM I was seeing a girl for a few months that kept saying we were "courting." That felt awkward. Really awkward. Anyone else had someone use that word for dating? Where I come from (Austin) you hang out until you're exclusive. Then you're dating. To me, "Dating" means girlfriend/boyfriend. Not since the 40's... We like using retro words for fun... So I may say NOW "back in the day when I was a'court'n ya"... southern drawl and all. |
| 2013-02-15 1:46 PM in reply to: #4624094 |
New user 98 East Tennessee | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 Kido - 2013-02-15 2:41 PM julio26pt2 - 2013-02-15 11:39 AM I was seeing a girl for a few months that kept saying we were "courting." That felt awkward. Really awkward. Anyone else had someone use that word for dating? Where I come from (Austin) you hang out until you're exclusive. Then you're dating. To me, "Dating" means girlfriend/boyfriend. Not since the 40's... We like using retro words for fun... So I may say NOW "back in the day when I was a'court'n ya"... southern drawl and all. I've used it and oddly enough I had a southern drawl too. |
| 2013-02-15 2:04 PM in reply to: #4162190 |
Elite 3770   | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 I prefer "wooing" |
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Champion 17756 SoCal | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 freckle face - 2013-02-15 11:30 AM Oooh, I LOVE language and the nuances of different words/phrases. Here's how I interept terms Dating: A relationship that is more committed than casual. Does NOT specify exclusivity, but implies something more than just having fun. I would not say "I am dating someone" if we've only been out a few times. However, to saying "I'm dating" is appropriate if I am actively going on dates- with anyone. Different uses for the same term. To saying "I'm dating" or "I'm dating around" implies you're actively going on dates and none are that serious. Seeing someone: A step down from dating. Fun, not many strings attached. Synonym for going out. Together: You're in a committed relationship. Obvs. Talking/hanging out: As in, "this guy I'm talking to." Similar to "seeing" someone, although I'd say a small degree less serious. I would agree with this ^^^ |
| 2013-02-15 2:43 PM in reply to: #4162190 |
| Veteran 513 Chicago (Old Town) | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 Nope, unfortunately, this wasn't jokingly. There were other things and expressions that made me feel like I was dating someone's grandma, but I won't go into it because she was really a nice person with a good heart. I like "wooing." I may start using that. |
| 2013-02-15 3:45 PM in reply to: #4624188 |
| Champion 34263 Chicago | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 Teejaay - 2013-02-15 2:34 PM julio26pt2 - 2013-02-15 12:39 PM I was seeing a girl for a few months that kept saying we were "courting." That felt awkward. Really awkward. Anyone else had someone use that word for dating? Where I come from (Austin) you hang out until you're exclusive. Then you're dating. To me, "Dating" means girlfriend/boyfriend. I would ... joking around after I knew someone really well. I'd use courting or wooing or refer to them as my "suitor" or "gentleman caller". To me when I am at the point of being a girlfriend and the guy my boyfriend (which sounds really odd when your my age) we'd be in a monogamous relationship. Otherwise we are just dating or hanging out! When I was courting Monica I would put on my finest trousers, the ones I'd normally save for the Sabbath, and a very stately shirt and she'd wear a newfangled skirt and a smart blouse and we'd go do the jitterbug at the Elk's Club. Golly, that was swell. |
| 2013-02-15 4:30 PM in reply to: #4624310 |
| Veteran 513 Chicago (Old Town) | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 mr2tony - 2013-02-15 3:45 PM Teejaay - 2013-02-15 2:34 PM When I was courting Monica I would put on my finest trousers, the ones I'd normally save for the Sabbath, and a very stately shirt and she'd wear a newfangled skirt and a smart blouse and we'd go do the jitterbug at the Elk's Club. Golly, that was swell. julio26pt2 - 2013-02-15 12:39 PM I was seeing a girl for a few months that kept saying we were "courting." That felt awkward. Really awkward. Anyone else had someone use that word for dating? Where I come from (Austin) you hang out until you're exclusive. Then you're dating. To me, "Dating" means girlfriend/boyfriend. I would ... joking around after I knew someone really well. I'd use courting or wooing or refer to them as my "suitor" or "gentleman caller". To me when I am at the point of being a girlfriend and the guy my boyfriend (which sounds really odd when your my age) we'd be in a monogamous relationship. Otherwise we are just dating or hanging out! Gee wiz, a Bonafide Fifth Avenue Suitor! Sounds like you two cats were in fat city! |
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| Member 154 Kansas City, Missouri | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 lisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:05 AM Zero2Athlete - 2013-02-15 11:00 AM lisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:34 AM I had a fun date last night (it just happened to be Valentines Day) - we saw the 3D version of Top Gun in the movie theater, but he brought along his iPod, a headphone jack splitter, and 2 pairs of headphones so we could listen to the MST3K version simultaneously. Hilarious laughter at inappropriate times, fun. But the movie got out before 9 p.m. and I was a little surprised he just walked me to my car and gave me a hug goodbye. Was hoping for a drink or coffee or something after, but it didn't come up (Yes I could have brought it up myself but I just wasn't getting that vibe). Then right before I get in the car he suggests we hang out again this weekend. Maybe he's just a slow mover? Lots of speculating as to the possibilities...work in the morning is an easy one. He also could be using plays from the dating/players guides - there's a few different versions of it but basically you flirt/whatever and build so the girl thinks you are going to ask her out. Then when she expects you to, you don't. It's supposed to cause a little psychological low as she questions if it's her or something she did. Then when she thinks the encounter is over - that's when you ask her out. She gets a little rush of relief that nothing is wrong with her, and then subconsciously associates you with this little emotional uplifting. Allegedly increases chances of getting a positive response. Or, he's a slow mover. Some of us are...some girls are hard to read. That makes us have to think harder as to whether we should risk our fragile egos asking for a follow up. What makes this even stranger, is that this morning I text and suggest hanging out either tonight or tomorrow. He says dang, already tied up for the weekend but what about Tuesday next week. So in the past 12 hours his weekend got completely booked up? I'm impressed. Waaaaaayyyy to much "mind games" in that process IMO, I prefer just to be up front and state how I feel and my intentions. I find it odd he suddenly got "booked up" so quickly. I would venture to guess he was/is talking to others online. He does like you, but is trying to meet another girl that he is interested in via "online". After that he will pick which of the two he prefers. I don't think he is a player, or he would have pushed for more after the movie. If he blows you off on Tuesday you will know he has picked the other woman |
| 2013-02-15 11:21 PM in reply to: #4624066 |
| Master 1890 Gig Harbor | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 freckle face - 2013-02-15 11:30 AM Oooh, I LOVE language and the nuances of different words/phrases. Here's how I interept terms Dating: A relationship that is more committed than casual. Does NOT specify exclusivity, but implies something more than just having fun. I would not say "I am dating someone" if we've only been out a few times. However, to saying "I'm dating" is appropriate if I am actively going on dates- with anyone. Different uses for the same term. To saying "I'm dating" or "I'm dating around" implies you're actively going on dates and none are that serious. Seeing someone: A step down from dating. Fun, not many strings attached. Synonym for going out. Together: You're in a committed relationship. Obvs. Talking/hanging out: As in, "this guy I'm talking to." Similar to "seeing" someone, although I'd say a small degree less serious. You are RAD. |
| 2013-02-15 11:23 PM in reply to: #4624188 |
| Master 1890 Gig Harbor | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 Teejaay - 2013-02-15 12:34 PM julio26pt2 - 2013-02-15 12:39 PM I was seeing a girl for a few months that kept saying we were "courting." That felt awkward. Really awkward. Anyone else had someone use that word for dating? Where I come from (Austin) you hang out until you're exclusive. Then you're dating. To me, "Dating" means girlfriend/boyfriend. I would ... joking around after I knew someone really well. I'd use courting or wooing or refer to them as my "suitor" or "gentleman caller". To me when I am at the point of being a girlfriend and the guy my boyfriend (which sounds really odd when your my age) we'd be in a monogamous relationship. Otherwise we are just dating or hanging out! What does that make me? I never woo'd you, nor (to my knowledge) was I your suitor and yet somehow we are engaged... I think we missed a step in there somewhere. |
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| 2013-02-16 6:49 AM in reply to: #4624399 |
| Expert 1028 Detroit, MI. Kinda. | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 coyote39 - 2013-02-15 6:01 PM lisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:05 AM Zero2Athlete - 2013-02-15 11:00 AM lisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:34 AM I had a fun date last night (it just happened to be Valentines Day) - we saw the 3D version of Top Gun in the movie theater, but he brought along his iPod, a headphone jack splitter, and 2 pairs of headphones so we could listen to the MST3K version simultaneously. Hilarious laughter at inappropriate times, fun. But the movie got out before 9 p.m. and I was a little surprised he just walked me to my car and gave me a hug goodbye. Was hoping for a drink or coffee or something after, but it didn't come up (Yes I could have brought it up myself but I just wasn't getting that vibe). Then right before I get in the car he suggests we hang out again this weekend. Maybe he's just a slow mover? Lots of speculating as to the possibilities...work in the morning is an easy one. He also could be using plays from the dating/players guides - there's a few different versions of it but basically you flirt/whatever and build so the girl thinks you are going to ask her out. Then when she expects you to, you don't. It's supposed to cause a little psychological low as she questions if it's her or something she did. Then when she thinks the encounter is over - that's when you ask her out. She gets a little rush of relief that nothing is wrong with her, and then subconsciously associates you with this little emotional uplifting. Allegedly increases chances of getting a positive response. Or, he's a slow mover. Some of us are...some girls are hard to read. That makes us have to think harder as to whether we should risk our fragile egos asking for a follow up. What makes this even stranger, is that this morning I text and suggest hanging out either tonight or tomorrow. He says dang, already tied up for the weekend but what about Tuesday next week. So in the past 12 hours his weekend got completely booked up? I'm impressed. Waaaaaayyyy to much "mind games" in that process IMO, I prefer just to be up front and state how I feel and my intentions. I find it odd he suddenly got "booked up" so quickly.
I agree - not endorsing the program, I just find psychology very interesting. It's really the same principals as an emotional abuser uses, watered down to less severe high and lows. Not cool and results in an increase in the neurotic women pool. Although it's used on guys too. |
| 2013-02-16 7:09 AM in reply to: #4162190 |
| Expert 1028 Detroit, MI. Kinda. | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 http://news.yahoo.com/video/whoknew-science-love-chemistry-love-060000026.html
Funny, I stumbled on this right after that last post. Not to take the romance out of this whole love and attraction thing, but this is decent into summation of how everything we do is really about getting a chemical reward. It's why the mind games work... the chemical releases are really all about contrast. If someones mood is elevated from say...an average level of being neither depressed nor elated, they get a hit of chemical reward. If they are depressed or unhappy and get an elevation to what is really just normalcy - but it feels like a big relief and they get the same reward. The player games seem to be design around the idea that it's easy to feed a persons natural insecurities. That keeps them down so when you give them normal, it feels like more. |
| 2013-02-16 12:05 PM in reply to: #4624399 |
Alpharetta, Georgia Bronze member | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 coyote39 - 2013-02-15 5:01 PM dlisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:05 AM Zero2Athlete - 2013-02-15 11:00 AM lisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:34 AM I had a fun date last night (it just happened to be Valentines Day) - we saw the 3D version of Top Gun in the movie theater, but he brought along his iPod, a headphone jack splitter, and 2 pairs of headphones so we could listen to the MST3K version simultaneously. Hilarious laughter at inappropriate times, fun. But the movie got out before 9 p.m. and I was a little surprised he just walked me to my car and gave me a hug goodbye. Was hoping for a drink or coffee or something after, but it didn't come up (Yes I could have brought it up myself but I just wasn't getting that vibe). Then right before I get in the car he suggests we hang out again this weekend. Maybe he's just a slow mover? Lots of speculating as to the possibilities...work in the morning is an easy one. He also could be using plays from the dating/players guides - there's a few different versions of it but basically you flirt/whatever and build so the girl thinks you are going to ask her out. Then when she expects you to, you don't. It's supposed to cause a little psychological low as she questions if it's her or something she did. Then when she thinks the encounter is over - that's when you ask her out. She gets a little rush of relief that nothing is wrong with her, and then subconsciously associates you with this little emotional uplifting. Allegedly increases chances of getting a positive response. Or, he's a slow mover. Some of us are...some girls are hard to read. That makes us have to think harder as to whether we should risk our fragile egos asking for a follow up. What makes this even stranger, is that this morning I text and suggest hanging out either tonight or tomorrow. He says dang, already tied up for the weekend but what about Tuesday next week. So in the past 12 hours his weekend got completely booked up? I'm impressed. Waaaaaayyyy to much "mind games" in that process IMO, I prefer just to be up front and state how I feel and my intentions. I find it odd he suddenly got "booked up" so quickly. I would venture to guess he was/is talking to others online. He does like you, but is trying to meet another girl that he is interested in via "online". After that he will pick which of the two he prefers. I don't think he is a player, or he would have pushed for more after the movie. If he blows you off on Tuesday you will know he has picked the other woman Yes, that would be the only logical conclusion. Hehe I know I put all of this out there for ya'll to pick apart, but in all of these situations we're ALL speculating. Based on almost zero information. But I enjoy reading all of the scenarios! Keep 'em coming! |
| 2013-02-16 12:21 PM in reply to: #4624966 |
| Expert 960 Highlands Ranch, CO | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 lisac957 - 2013-02-16 11:05 AM coyote39 - 2013-02-15 5:01 PM dlisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:05 AM Zero2Athlete - 2013-02-15 11:00 AM lisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:34 AM I had a fun date last night (it just happened to be Valentines Day) - we saw the 3D version of Top Gun in the movie theater, but he brought along his iPod, a headphone jack splitter, and 2 pairs of headphones so we could listen to the MST3K version simultaneously. Hilarious laughter at inappropriate times, fun. But the movie got out before 9 p.m. and I was a little surprised he just walked me to my car and gave me a hug goodbye. Was hoping for a drink or coffee or something after, but it didn't come up (Yes I could have brought it up myself but I just wasn't getting that vibe). Then right before I get in the car he suggests we hang out again this weekend. Maybe he's just a slow mover? Lots of speculating as to the possibilities...work in the morning is an easy one. He also could be using plays from the dating/players guides - there's a few different versions of it but basically you flirt/whatever and build so the girl thinks you are going to ask her out. Then when she expects you to, you don't. It's supposed to cause a little psychological low as she questions if it's her or something she did. Then when she thinks the encounter is over - that's when you ask her out. She gets a little rush of relief that nothing is wrong with her, and then subconsciously associates you with this little emotional uplifting. Allegedly increases chances of getting a positive response. Or, he's a slow mover. Some of us are...some girls are hard to read. That makes us have to think harder as to whether we should risk our fragile egos asking for a follow up. What makes this even stranger, is that this morning I text and suggest hanging out either tonight or tomorrow. He says dang, already tied up for the weekend but what about Tuesday next week. So in the past 12 hours his weekend got completely booked up? I'm impressed. Waaaaaayyyy to much "mind games" in that process IMO, I prefer just to be up front and state how I feel and my intentions. I find it odd he suddenly got "booked up" so quickly. I would venture to guess he was/is talking to others online. He does like you, but is trying to meet another girl that he is interested in via "online". After that he will pick which of the two he prefers. I don't think he is a player, or he would have pushed for more after the movie. If he blows you off on Tuesday you will know he has picked the other woman Yes, that would be the only logical conclusion. Hehe I know I put all of this out there for ya'll to pick apart, but in all of these situations we're ALL speculating. Based on almost zero information. But I enjoy reading all of the scenarios! Keep 'em coming!
Maybe his wife made unexpected plans for the weekend? |
| 2013-02-16 5:22 PM in reply to: #4624975 |
| Veteran 513 Chicago (Old Town) | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 sbreaux - 2013-02-16 12:21 PM lisac957 - 2013-02-16 11:05 AM coyote39 - 2013-02-15 5:01 PM dlisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:05 AM Zero2Athlete - 2013-02-15 11:00 AM lisac957 - 2013-02-15 11:34 AM I had a fun date last night (it just happened to be Valentines Day) - we saw the 3D version of Top Gun in the movie theater, but he brought along his iPod, a headphone jack splitter, and 2 pairs of headphones so we could listen to the MST3K version simultaneously. Hilarious laughter at inappropriate times, fun. But the movie got out before 9 p.m. and I was a little surprised he just walked me to my car and gave me a hug goodbye. Was hoping for a drink or coffee or something after, but it didn't come up (Yes I could have brought it up myself but I just wasn't getting that vibe). Then right before I get in the car he suggests we hang out again this weekend. Maybe he's just a slow mover? Lots of speculating as to the possibilities...work in the morning is an easy one. He also could be using plays from the dating/players guides - there's a few different versions of it but basically you flirt/whatever and build so the girl thinks you are going to ask her out. Then when she expects you to, you don't. It's supposed to cause a little psychological low as she questions if it's her or something she did. Then when she thinks the encounter is over - that's when you ask her out. She gets a little rush of relief that nothing is wrong with her, and then subconsciously associates you with this little emotional uplifting. Allegedly increases chances of getting a positive response. Or, he's a slow mover. Some of us are...some girls are hard to read. That makes us have to think harder as to whether we should risk our fragile egos asking for a follow up. What makes this even stranger, is that this morning I text and suggest hanging out either tonight or tomorrow. He says dang, already tied up for the weekend but what about Tuesday next week. So in the past 12 hours his weekend got completely booked up? I'm impressed. Waaaaaayyyy to much "mind games" in that process IMO, I prefer just to be up front and state how I feel and my intentions. I find it odd he suddenly got "booked up" so quickly. I would venture to guess he was/is talking to others online. He does like you, but is trying to meet another girl that he is interested in via "online". After that he will pick which of the two he prefers. I don't think he is a player, or he would have pushed for more after the movie. If he blows you off on Tuesday you will know he has picked the other woman Yes, that would be the only logical conclusion. Hehe I know I put all of this out there for ya'll to pick apart, but in all of these situations we're ALL speculating. Based on almost zero information. But I enjoy reading all of the scenarios! Keep 'em coming!
Maybe his wife made unexpected plans for the weekend? Maybe he violated parole and is back in prison? |
| 2013-02-19 8:40 AM in reply to: #4162190 |
| Extreme Veteran 2263 Ridgeland, Mississippi | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 Have my first POF date tomorrow. Set the date up Sunday, which is a bit further in advance than I would like for meeting someone from online. I find that first dates set up further than 2-3 days out have a pretty high flake rate. Edited by msteiner 2013-02-19 8:40 AM |
| 2013-02-19 9:49 AM in reply to: #4162190 |
| Elite 3770 | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 So my mom talked to my friend's mom. She was livid about her soon to be ex son in law writing to me, said all of his claims of her daughter's infidelity was a lie, yada yada yada, I ain't touching that situation with a 10 foot pole. And the guy I went out with 4 times that wouldn't hold my hand? sent me flowers for a birthday/valentines day gift. And when I said thank you, is back to texting me all the time. sheesh. I think I get all the crazy ones. |
| 2013-02-19 9:59 AM in reply to: #4162190 |
| Alpharetta, Georgia Bronze member | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 I have a 3rd (really 2nd - he doesn't count the movie since we didn't get to talk) date tonight with the married parole violator. |
| 2013-02-19 10:04 AM in reply to: #4628190 |
| Master 2099 Madison, WI | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 lisac957 - 2013-02-19 9:59 AM I have a 3rd (really 2nd - he doesn't count the movie since we didn't get to talk) date tonight with the married parole violator. Bwa ha ha ha ha. That's great. |
| 2013-02-19 10:23 AM in reply to: #4162190 |
| Expert 1028 Detroit, MI. Kinda. | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 I got substitute crossfit trainer's number last night. She is trying to talk me into doing a Marathon with her, and wants to come rock climbing. A running, crossfitting, rock climber? I might be willing to overlook a significant amount of crazy if she can keep up with me! |
| 2013-02-19 10:39 AM in reply to: #4162190 |
| Champion 7136 Knoxville area | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 After an extended stay from the sites, I think I'll reactivate my PoF and OKC accounts, much to my Xbox and couches disdain. |
| 2013-02-19 11:15 AM in reply to: #4628288 |
| Master 5557 , California | Subject: RE: Triathlon Dating Thread Ver 2.0 Leegoocrap - 2013-02-19 8:39 AM After an extended stay from the sites, I think I'll reactivate my PoF and OKC accounts, much to my Xbox and couches disdain. It's ok to trash the old one, you'll be upgrading to an Xbox 720 soon |
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