What's a "deal breaker" for you?

A deal breaker for me is lying/cheating, someone who just doesn't know what she wants or someone who isn't active nor care for heslef, the rest I can deal with.

Regarding this guy; it seems very odd what he considers a deal breaker for sure, so if sushi does the is one of those for him then I would juts walk away as fast as I can

Hey Amy,

That guy totally sounds like a dirtbag.  Instead of just saying, "I'm not interested", it sounds like he chose to take the a**hole route and start talking out of his rear end.  Those are the guys that give the nice guys (like the ones on the BT blog - especially in Wisconsin) a bad name!  There's gotta be a triguy out there for you somewhere!

this guy has so many red flags you should not even be concerned about the sushi bit.

he doesn't want a relationship but you can be his friend that comes over and rides him till he goes to sleep?  yeah.  dealbreaker right there.

for me dealbreaker are signs of alcohol abuse, smoking, not being a christian, lazy/unhealthy, and not being a big football fan.  picky?  yes.  but if he doesn't love football that's 4 nights a week 4 months of the year that he can't be around and the other 3 days we won't have anything to talk about.

The sushi bit, along with the other 'stuff' issues screams NEXT!!!

Though I dig the honesty about being selfish, I'm wondering how he would ever get any considering his 'selfishness'.  I certainly wouldn't put up with that.

Dealbreakers for me: smoking, excessive drinking, cheating, not being open to the possibility of children, lack of ambition (I dated a guy once whose dream was to own a mobile home...and I'm not talking about a NICE mobile home...of course, he also smoked weed and had tens of the thousands of dollars in child support arrears, but hey!  We all have to have dreams!)

I think his reaction would be a deal breaker for me. 

Seriously, sounds like a relationship you're better off not being part of.

Some people, you wonder why they're single.

And some people you just don't have to.

What would be deal breakers for me?

Smoking. Won't deal with it, at all. Don't even give me the "social smoker" line, I don't buy it. I don't care if a person HAS smoked in the past, as long as that past stays buried.

Coming home drunk. You're gonna wake up in your car with the keys in it, and a suitcase in the back seat. Find somewhere else to sleep.

Hitting a child, especially mine. If you do it to some one else's, it's just a matter of time that you'll do it to mine and think I won't know. Hit the pavement.

And you've got to not think that initiating intimacy is all up to me. If you're in the mood and I'm not catching your vibe (this would be a VERY rare thing), don't get mad at me, just get not-so-subtle.

I'm honestly not really sure exactly what my dealbreakers are, it seems to be a combination of multiple things.

However, I can say for sure that a dislike of sushi is NOT one of them.

Run far, run fast.

Ok, everyone has their strange deal breakers, I'd be disappointed if someone didn't like wine or wine tastings, etc.

However, the fact that he is selfish in the bedroom is a dealbreaker FOR YOU! Run. FAST.

Douchebag.

Don't walk.

RUN!

Dude's a dweeb.  If he is that hung up on something like sushi, heaven knows how much worse he will get.

And the whole bed room thing.  Ummm... yeah. Mr. Sensitivity he is not.

There are plenty of other good guys out there for a good girl like you.  Even if you are a Cubs fan. 

(Love ya!  Mean it!)

Another vote for d-bag.

Personally, I can't deal with lying (whether its something big or something small) or smoking.  Bleck.

I am so loving these responses, as they were all the EXACT SAME ONES I HAD!!! HA! For some unknown reason, he called me last night, and something interesting happened....he went to VOICEMAIL!!! Needless to say, my time with Mr. "I love sushi, can't stand intimacy...wanna be friends" is history.

I just had to share my interesting conversation with you all...

My first thought was why would he want YOU to eat Sushi.  (keep in mind I have the emotional level of a 6 year old and my mind starts in the gutter...)

Ok, seriously though, the guy does sound like a d-bag.  But, props for the honesty.  Most d-bags would have let you figure out the "selfish in bed" thing on your own.  On some level, you have to respect the fact that he was honest with you.

But yeah - moving on sounds like a good move...

as for your original question - aside from either an angry ex-husband or having the nickname "The Black Widow," the only deal breaker for me would be:  CATS!

Maybe it is the perceptionist in me, but I read this a little differently than everyone else.  Sushi - really?  Me thinks not.  I think that this guy started to like you, started to see you liking him, and got scared because he is a relationship-phob.  "What can I say to her that will make her run away and think I am a dbag.  Ohhh, she doesn;t like sushi - I'll tell her that I can't have a serious relationship with someone who doesn't like sushi.  That way, if she thinks that she can convert me - I'll partake in the goodies and still won't have to accept any relationship other than a booty call.  Wait, what if I am not good in bed.  I'll tell her that I don't care about anyone but myself.  Worst case, she calls it quits and I don't have to worry about a relationship.  Best case - I am a super cool dude that doesn't know the power of my own animal magnetism and I can have my cake and eat my pizza too. 

I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.

oooh i forgot that one.  cats are totally a dealbreaker because i can not BREATHE around them.  i had to leave my poker game on sat night after only winning $20 because i was so sick from a cat hiding in the space between the walls...

Guy sounds like a loser.

Dealbreakers: smoking, drug use, alcohol abuse, lying and cheating and all that entails (obviously), no ambition, unhealthy and inactive/lazy, non-Christian (however, I'm not super-conservative, so that's a whole other issue).

Things that would drive me nuts and I might think twice: super-picky eaters (like finicky, don't like anything beyond the bare minimum, etc.) and dislike of dogs. Luckily, I don't know any guys who don't like dogs, and have only briefly dated one guy a couple of years ago who was SUPER-picky. I love food and love to cook and that would just drive me crazy.

"selfish when it comes to the stuff" would be a definate deal breaker. 

Other than that, the usual suspects....lying, cheating, smoking. 

Oh yeah, not supporing my goals and dreams.  If you can't support me in those, I don't want the person dragging me down.