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 2010-07-16 7:39 AM in reply to: #2984120 |
Champion  5376    PA |  Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy commenttrishie - 2010-07-15 9:11 PM Tri Take Me Away - 2010-07-15 9:00 PM Teenagers and young adults generally have NO idea what a real pregnant woman looks like. They just see pregnant women on TV and think they all get a basketball-sized tummy, their water breaks, they push twice, and a baby pops out. If they really knew the truth, the human race would end. So in that sense, it's good that the lifeguard is so clueless.  That's not what happens?!  I know what happens.. I saw it on "V" and the "Dawn of the Dead 2." It's pretty scary. |
| 2010-07-16 8:01 AM in reply to: #2984069 |
Veteran 407 | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Trishie you are a beautiful, healthy, mother to be, that's all that matters. Comments like this makes the world go around. Just don't let this happen to you, like it did to me, 3 weeks AFTER I gave birth to my first child, "When is your baby due?" OUCH, that one really hurt! You truly are beautiful! |
| 2010-07-16 8:26 AM in reply to: #2984069 |
Pro 5169 Burbs | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Thanks everyone I wasn't hurt or angry --- just ... bemused. I thought it was rude, but I didn't take it personally. Many people have no idea what a "real" pregnant women looks like. Most don't look like Rachel on Friends -- 40w with a tiny basketball belly. I've also read that "pregnant models" (for maternity clothes) are non pregnant young women with a bump strapped under their shirts. Shenanigans! |
| 2010-07-16 8:30 AM in reply to: #2984069 |
Elite 3201  South Florida | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Oh my gosh - you look adorable and perfect to me! People didn't know what to think when I was pregnant - I gained between 35-40 pounds with each kid and it was almost all in my belly. These pictures are from when I was about 8 months pregnant with my 2nd baby - my mom snuck the one of me in the bathing suit - I was trying to hide out in the back yard to get some sun on my belly!   |
| 2010-07-16 9:48 AM in reply to: #2984266 |
Veteran 559 | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment My son has two friends whose moms look sort of alike. One was pregnant with her second child, the other wasn't. My wife saw one of them at the coffee shop and said, "So, when is the baby due?" Aaaaand you guessed it. Wrong one. The poor woman made some awful flustered comment about not having taken the baby weight off as fast as she'd hoped. My wife was, understandably, mortified and apologized profusely, but the damage was done. I'm glad it wasn't me. That's all I'm saying been there done it....open mouth , change feet, I am still cringing |
| 2010-07-16 10:33 AM in reply to: #2984069 |
Extreme Veteran 799 | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment We have twins, and it was just crazy what people would say when my wife was pregnant. Every freaking time someone found out we were having twins they would tell this horrible story about someone they knew who lost one or both twins. It would have been better if they just called her fat. And it seriously happened at least 20 times while she was pregnant. |
| 2010-07-16 10:40 AM in reply to: #2984069 |
Elite 4235 Spring, TX | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment I'm sure the guy was just trying to make polite conversation. There's no excuse for rudeness, but it sounds like it was done out of ignorance. A lot of people, myself included, have no idea what's okay and not okay to say to a pregnant woman. Remember, most men rarely know how to speak to a woman without putting their foot in their mouths in a normal situation! I had never been around a pregnant woman until I reached my mid 20's. I held my first baby when I was 26. I can't tell the difference between a woman 5 months pregnant and a woman 9 months pregnant! Regardless, congratulations and I hope everything continues to go well! |
| 2010-07-16 11:17 AM in reply to: #2984540 |
Royal(PITA) 14270 West Chester, Ohio | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment phoenixazul - 2010-07-16 7:07 AM This is why my policy is and always has been: Unless you see the baby's head crowning...keep your mouth shut about anything having to do with another person's reproductive activities and/or organs. Seriously. It is none of your business. And at what point did it become OK to invade someone's personal space and rub their belly? Pregnant women are not troll dolls, they're still individual human beings. Love the way you phrased this!! |
| 2010-07-16 11:33 AM in reply to: #2984069 |
Melon Presser 52116 | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment I'm exactly the opposite of ell-in-or ... I will vigorously melon-press people upon meeting them (or, in order to meet them ... what, Yanti, you didn't think a handshake would do?) or even declare undying love before telling them my name ... but there is something about an apparently-pregnant woman's belly that is like kryptonite to me. I will go to any lengths to avoid it. My sister-in-law and plenty of pregnant friends have been like HERE TOUCH THIS or FEEL XYZ KICK and I'm like, "EEEEEEEEW NOOOOOOOOOO!" I'm with phoenixazul ... under no circumstances do I comment on what a woman's belly looks like or what her apparent reproductive status may be, ever. ONCE, I did it ONCE, and I learned, and never again. TRISHIE ... congrats ... you do look gorgeous! Every time you post, I look at your avatar and the IronBabyBoy line and it makes me happy and hopeful |
| 2010-07-16 11:53 AM in reply to: #2985404 |
Pro 5169 Burbs | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment TriAya - 2010-07-16 12:33 PM I'm exactly the opposite of ell-in-or ... I will vigorously melon-press people upon meeting them (or, in order to meet them ... what, Yanti, you didn't think a handshake would do?) or even declare undying love before telling them my name ... but there is something about an apparently-pregnant woman's belly that is like kryptonite to me. I will go to any lengths to avoid it. My sister-in-law and plenty of pregnant friends have been like HERE TOUCH THIS or FEEL XYZ KICK and I'm like, "EEEEEEEEW NOOOOOOOOOO!" I'm with phoenixazul ... under no circumstances do I comment on what a woman's belly looks like or what her apparent reproductive status may be, ever. ONCE, I did it ONCE, and I learned, and never again. TRISHIE ... congrats ... you do look gorgeous! Every time you post, I look at your avatar and the IronBabyBoy line and it makes me happy and hopeful thanks girlie ! |
| 2010-07-16 1:20 PM in reply to: #2984069 |
| New user 420 Charlotte, NC USA | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment I think Brian Regan said it best when he was talking about this very subject... “I’m always putting my foot in my mouth. I don’t stop to think. Oh, no!...words are coming out…oh, no…I’m not thinking…what is that? Like I met this woman recently; I could have sworn she was pregnant, lemme tell ya. [crowd moans] I know, now. I think the rule is: Don’t guess at that ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever… ever. Something like that. I didn’t have enough evers memorized. So I said, “When’s that …b…aby due?” You ever feel a word coming out but it’s too late to stop it? Whoa! It’s coming out and loud… “Hey, when’s that BABY due? BABY!” “What baby?” “OOOooo....” Edited by ScoopJackson 2010-07-16 1:21 PM |
| 2010-07-16 1:36 PM in reply to: #2984423 |
Master 2468 Muskego, Wisconsin | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Just wait until after the baby comes and you use a baby bjorn front harness thingy. People come up and just feel the babies head, legs and arms all the time. They come too close to your special parts way too often. Never liked the whole stranger touching my baby thing, still don't. |
| 2010-07-16 1:45 PM in reply to: #2984120 |
Master 2277 Lake Norman, NC | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment trishie - 2010-07-15 9:11 PM Tri Take Me Away - 2010-07-15 9:00 PM Teenagers and young adults generally have NO idea what a real pregnant woman looks like. They just see pregnant women on TV and think they all get a basketball-sized tummy, their water breaks, they push twice, and a baby pops out. If they really knew the truth, the human race would end. So in that sense, it's good that the lifeguard is so clueless. That's not what happens?! That's sort of what happened with our second, Kyle. We're at home watching TV. My wife says, "I'll be right back," goes into the bathroom and comes out, "water just broke." "When do you want to take off," I asked her? "Not until the show is over. We have time." We hung around a bit longer, watched TV, timed the surges and left for the hospital when they were about 3 minutes apart. We got there, checked in, Amy got settled and the nurse checked her. "Uh oh," she said. "Uh oh as in 10cm," I asked? "No, uh oh as in I feel a head. I've got to go page your midwife again." "Let's get you into hypnosis and start our HypnoBirthing," I said. "I don't think there's any time now. Do you remember how to do this," Amy asked me? "Of course. See if you can hold out." She couldn't. Beep the nurse, wash my hands, one push, two push, there's his head, check the neck and cord, give the shoulders a turn and as our midwife and nursing staff walked into the room... "Waaaaaaa!" There he was! "Way to go guys," cries out our midwife! "I hope you don't think we're paying for that," I joked with her. "Make yourself useful and grab the camera or soemthing." "We shoulda just had this one at home," Amy commented. Sometimes it actually does happen like that (at least not usually with the first). Sorry about the stupid comment - it won't be the last. People are idiots. And babies is cool! |
| 2010-07-16 2:01 PM in reply to: #2984069 |
Elite 3770 | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Tricia need me to do some butt kicking? cause you know I'd like to if given the chance of some pubescent boy or girl. :P and I think pregnancy totally agrees with you. I don'tknow about pregnancy glows or any of that stuff, but you look beautiful in your picture and in person! |
| 2010-07-16 2:13 PM in reply to: #2985785 |
Champion 11989 Philly 'burbs | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Bigfuzzydoug - 2010-07-16 2:45 PM "I hope you don't think we're paying for that," I joked with her. I'll bet somebody got billed for it Great story! |
| 2010-07-16 2:51 PM in reply to: #2984069 |
Veteran 190 | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Just wait until you have the baby and complete strangers will come up to you and make the following comments: 'It is cold outside, your baby is underdressed' or 'It is hot outside, your baby is overdressed' - the actual temperature on day of these comments will probably be a lovely 68 degrees. Are you breastfeeding'? You answer Yes, they reply 'Ewwe that is gross - don't you know that they have formula nowadays' You answer No, they reply 'Breastmilk is best, formula will make your baby stupid' You have a boy 'Did you have him circ'd?' - umm why do you care about my son's penis? Other comments like "ooh your baby it so small - are you sure she is getting enough milk?" or "Boy he sure is a big baby - maybe you are feeding him too much" I don't know what it is about being pregnant or having a baby that makes people think that they could offer advice/make comments to complete strangers. |
| 2010-07-16 4:58 PM in reply to: #2984069 |
Expert 1092 St. Paul, MN | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment People are dumb. Good luck Trishie!! |
| 2010-07-16 7:51 PM in reply to: #2984069 |
Expert 1070 Denver Area | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment ya know after a certain point in this past pregnancy I just started sayin', "YEP, I'm one of those women what gits BIG!" 'cause even when I was 7 months gone, I had at least one comment a day usually from older (read:gran'ma's or greats) women who I think forget how big we get. a lot of "OH...is it twins???" bottom line, you are NOT alone, love. |
| 2010-07-16 8:55 PM in reply to: #2984069 |
Pro 4089 Without house | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment There you go... Gotta love all the fun t-shirts you can find now a days. Pregnancy seems to turn the non-pregnant people stupid. I mean, really...who decided that it was 'good luck' to rub a pregnancy woman's belly? |
| 2010-07-17 8:59 AM in reply to: #2984069 |
Melon Presser 52116 | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment I am never. NEVER. EVER. getting pregnant or having kids. I am not NEARLY as thick-skinned -- or tolerant -- as you ladies are. There. I said it (btw, it's probably going to be like I'm never running a marathon, never getting my tongue pierced, never jumping out of a perfectly good aircraft, etc. etc.) Edited by TriAya 2010-07-17 9:01 AM |
| 2010-07-17 6:45 PM in reply to: #2984069 |
Champion 6627 Rochester Hills, Michigan Gold member | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment mod: You'll notice a few posts are missing. For good reason. Comments like 'get over yourself' and telling people to 'go do xxx or something' are not in line with the forum guidelines, so they're gone. Pregnancy is a passionate topic, sure, but not a hall pass to be disrespectful. Period. Next one gets a forum timeout. Fair warning. |
| 2010-07-18 7:31 AM in reply to: #2984150 |
| New Haven, CT | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment calgalinal - 2010-07-15 9:33 PM Some people have no filter and no sensitivity chip, let alone any sense. I've never been pregnant, but using an example related to a previous CoJ post - I'm half Asian, but most people can't quite tell what my ethnic background is. On more than one occasion I've had a stranger come up to me and ask haughtily, "What ARE you???" My response is usually a sarcastic, "A human being. What are you?" You'd be surprised how many people still don't get it. awesome! good for you. |
 2010-07-18 10:52 AM in reply to: #2984084 |
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| 2010-07-18 6:17 PM in reply to: #2984069 |
| Expert 1690 | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Young and have no experience with kids. I said that very comment to a pharmacist friend before she had her baby, she nearly died laughing. I guess i caught her at a good time. Im a pretty tactless person though and have no clue what is or what is not off limits in such situations if i havent been told. Now i know, I do ask before i touch the belly though. |
| 2010-07-19 8:08 AM in reply to: #2984069 |
| Champion 7821 Brooklyn, NY | Subject: RE: First rude pregnancy comment Wait until people start asking you if you’ve decided what to name the baby, and then judging your choices, as if you’d asked for their opinion. “Oh, I hate that name. I had a boyfriend named XXX, and he was a total jerk.” Or, they’ll connect the name to some random character in some obscure movie or tv show. “XYZ was the slutty gold-digger in two episodes of season three of ‘The Facts of Life’. Why would you name your baby after her?” We finally got so tired of it that we started telling people “We’re going to name him ‘Osama Judas’, but we think we’ll just call him ‘OJ’ for short.” |
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