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 2009-01-22 12:17 PM |
Sensei  Sin City |  Subject: Let's Talk RelationshipsDear, COJ Let's say... You and the SO get into a fight, a real good one, goes a full 10 rounds, prior to a planed event or meeting other people You really don't want to be around each other at that moment, but you have to go. What do you do? It's always plagued me on the rare occasion it happens. Do you go and 'fake' like you like each other, almost knowing full well that everyone can see through the act and feel the tension? Try to put it on the back burner and truely forget it happened? Skip the event? Or have one person stay behind and still create an akward situation? Signed, The frustrated fighter... Edited by Aikidoman 2009-01-22 12:19 PM |
| 2009-01-22 12:21 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
Elite  3683     Whispering Pines, North Carolina | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships |
 2009-01-22 12:32 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
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| 2009-01-22 12:43 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
Champion 5868 Urbandale, IA | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships You put it in your past for the good of the relationship. |
| 2009-01-22 12:46 PM in reply to: #1922725 |
| Champion 5171 Racine, WI | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships jdwright56 - 2009-01-22 12:43 PM You put it in your past for the good of the relationship. x2
Or angry pizza right before hand may do the trick too......just sayn'.... |
| 2009-01-22 12:47 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Pro 4612 MA | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships Once my parents were fighting so badly that we had to bail from an event the next evening. It was too pianful to for them go together and fake a smile on their faces. |
| 2009-01-22 12:47 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Elite 3491 In The Peleton | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships It's a chance to be around each other and enjoy someone else's company. Make sure you are respectful to your SO. Likely, by the time you get home, you will want to have make up pizza. |
| 2009-01-22 12:47 PM in reply to: #1922732 |
| Champion 5868 Urbandale, IA | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships aidana - 2009-01-22 12:46 PM jdwright56 - 2009-01-22 12:43 PM You put it in your past for the good of the relationship. x2
Or angry pizza right before hand may do the trick too......just sayn'.... I love the way you think. First you agree with me and then you suggest angry pizza!!!! |
| 2009-01-22 12:51 PM in reply to: #1922737 |
| Champion 5171 Racine, WI | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships jdwright56 - 2009-01-22 12:47 PM aidana - 2009-01-22 12:46 PM jdwright56 - 2009-01-22 12:43 PM You put it in your past for the good of the relationship. x2
Or angry pizza right before hand may do the trick too......just sayn'.... I love the way you think. First you agree with me and then you suggest angry pizza!!!! I aim to please...... |
| 2009-01-22 12:53 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Master 1996 Woodbridge , Virginia | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships Dear Frustrated fighter, i too, have gone through the same events.. it came to a point for me either sh!!t or get off the pot.. do something to remedy the situation (agree to disagree or whatever).. or hang up the gloves .. my situation although maybe different, i hung up the gloves.. i didn't have any more fight left. do i feel bad.. a little.. but i'm not in those awkward moments of i have to be around you.. free as a butterfly.. by the way the opponent never forgets, it only builds until the next bout!!! So my fellow fighter the decision is yours to make.. is it worth fighting for or not??? Sincerely punch to the gut |
| 2009-01-22 12:54 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Champion 34263 Chicago | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships Show her who's boss. |
| 2009-01-22 12:56 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Iron Donkey 38643 , Wisconsin | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships Aikidoman - 2009-01-22 12:17 PM Dear, COJ Let's say... You and the SO get into a fight, a real good one, goes a full 10 rounds, prior to a planed event or meeting other people You really don't want to be around each other at that moment, but you have to go. What do you do? It's always plagued me on the rare occasion it happens. Do you go and 'fake' like you like each other, almost knowing full well that everyone can see through the act and feel the tension? Try to put it on the back burner and truely forget it happened? Skip the event? Or have one person stay behind and still create an akward situation? Signed, The frustrated fighter... I think this is a "WWTBD" question. Bear - WWYD?? |
| 2009-01-22 1:37 PM in reply to: #1922770 |
| Sensei Sin City | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships BTW - we went out and met our friends. I ended up hanging with the guys for a while talking UFC, her with the ladies. Once we put some time in not dealing with it, when the group sort of merged later, things were better. She even came up and put her arms around me.. It worked out well. But I have to say, those 30 minutes before we had to leave, it was tough to decide what to do (I wanted to stay home and let her go by herself). AND it was a pretty quiet car ride to our friends house. The fight had run it's course anyway before leaving. Just dealing with the aftershocks, really... |
| 2009-01-22 2:05 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Champion 6786 Two seat rocket plane | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships |
| 2009-01-22 2:27 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Elite 3067 Cheesehead, WI | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships Ooooo! Just had this happen a couple of weeks ago just when we were going over to my mother in laws. NO sympathy to be found there of course. I steamed a bit and my dh usually is the one to completely forget about it (which always comes back to haunt him I'm one that can not leave things ....so once we got in the car to head home, I brought it up and told him how I felt and we made things 'right'. But if it were left to him, honestly, it would have been swept under the carpet which I do feel (in certain situations) is unhealthy for both parties in a relationship. |
| 2009-01-22 3:27 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Champion 5312 Calgary | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships It has taken a while, but we are pretty good about it now. We don't get into many 10 rounders, but when we do and when it is over, it is over. We can fight about something all the way to someones house, but the second we get there the bell rings and life resumes. Why rehash it. Its taken a while to get to that point though. |
| 2009-01-22 6:31 PM in reply to: #1923232 |
| Sensei Sin City | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships BigDH - 2009-01-22 1:27 PM It has taken a while, but we are pretty good about it now. We don't get into many 10 rounders, but when we do and when it is over, it is over. We can fight about something all the way to someones house, but the second we get there the bell rings and life resumes. Why rehash it. Its taken a while to get to that point though. trust me. I was tapping out after round 1 or 2. But the onslaught and the beatings continued. |
| 2009-01-22 7:12 PM in reply to: #1923640 |
| Champion 5312 Calgary | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships Aikidoman - 2009-01-22 5:31 PM BigDH - 2009-01-22 1:27 PM It has taken a while, but we are pretty good about it now. We don't get into many 10 rounders, but when we do and when it is over, it is over. We can fight about something all the way to someones house, but the second we get there the bell rings and life resumes. Why rehash it. Its taken a while to get to that point though. trust me. I was tapping out after round 1 or 2. But the onslaught and the beatings continued. Yeah, that is the difficulty. I relate. I am a big tapper and I can see when a fight is going south real quick. Frankly, in a calm moment, you have to have a chat about fighting fair, now that is a tough conversation and probably will lead to its own fight. Sometimes arguments are about nothing, like which dish to put in the dishwasher, and they just spiral to a super nova. Sometimes they are about something, like why you are running for 3 hours every Sunday. First you have to recognise the difference. Then you can resolve those that need resolving and just ignore the other ones. Thing is you cannot resolve things when one person is so hot under the coller. Anyways, I am not saying things always come up roses. And I don't have kids yet. There is still give and take. |
| 2009-01-23 5:05 AM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Elite 2634 in front of my computer duh! | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships when the beating keep coming I just leave the ring. No bye, no where I am going, just pick up and get out and just drive for like an hour, clear my head (make any phone calls to cancel me being anywhere) and then deal with it later. The nice thing is I work at night so often times evening fights end with I am going to work. then things are better in the morning |
| 2009-01-23 12:04 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Master 3127 Sunny Southern Cal | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships Make up on the way there, park and have some wild sex in the car a block away from your destination, then get drunk at the event and have a great time. |
| 2009-01-23 12:06 PM in reply to: #1925192 |
| Champion 14571 the alamo city, Texas | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships SevenZulu - 2009-01-23 1:04 PM Make up on the way there, park and have some wild sex in the car a block away from your destination, then get drunk at the event and have a great time. have you SEEN pics of his wife? i don't know how he doesn't spend every waking moment having wild sex. i'm just sayin. eta: i may or may not have a huge crush on mrs. kido Edited by meherczeg 2009-01-23 12:06 PM |
| 2009-01-23 12:07 PM in reply to: #1925199 |
| Champion 5171 Racine, WI | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships meherczeg - 2009-01-23 12:06 PM SevenZulu - 2009-01-23 1:04 PM Make up on the way there, park and have some wild sex in the car a block away from your destination, then get drunk at the event and have a great time. have you SEEN pics of his wife? i don't know how he doesn't spend every waking moment having wild sex. i'm just sayin. eta: i may or may not have a huge crush on mrs. kido
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| 2009-01-23 3:52 PM in reply to: #1922646 |
| Champion 4942 Richmond, VA | Subject: RE: Let's Talk Relationships here's what you do... go to the event. find your posse. then, when your little lady is by herself, approach with said posse and continue the fight. it is purely a numbers game.
look at the silver lining - fighting = passion. the only time to really be concerned is when you no longer fight because it just isn't worth it anymore... |
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