Divorce/kids/name change

Your little girl is a hoot! A hoot!!! What a great head she has on her shoulders.

Screw everyone else. What do you want to do?

I reclaimed my maiden/family name/individual identity.

In Italy, Spain and South America, wives don't even change their last names.

My folks divorced, my mom reverted to her maiden name, then re-married, taking the name of my stepfather who has since died. She's back to the name she was born with.

Good for her I say.

It's your name, I don't see how anyone could "be against it". That is truly no business of theirs.

Why would want to keep your married name?

Hey, you're D-I-V-O-R-C-E-D.  Why would other people want you to keep H-I-S name?  Love your daughter's attitute.  All that matters is what you and she thinks.   She's ok with it.  Now it's your choice. 

We Chinese people don't change names when get married.  I think it's one of the best of our culture. 

I kept my married name when I got divorced, but only because it's shorter and much easier to spell than my maiden name is, and because I'm lazy enough that I didn't want to go through the work to change my name on legal docs, bills, etc. I also had a fairly amicable divorce, so I didn't feel the need to totally disassociate from the ex. My daughters didn't seem to care one way or the other, which was nice, especially since I'm remarried now and my last name isn't the same as theirs anymore anyway.

In your situation, I would definitely go back to your maiden name.

Your daughter is wise beyond her years. 

My mom kept her married name after my parent divorced (I was 6 at the time).  When my dad remarried (I was 20) she changed back to her maiden name.  She said that since there the new wife would be, Mrs. _____, that there didn't need to be two of them.

Cool note:  Her first birthday after taking back her maiden name I got her a cake that read, "Happy 1st Birthday."

Listen to your daughter and yourself. 

I don't know what business you're in, but "Tambra Jo Googly Moogly" is not going to be forgotten.

Your daughter sounds like a very sharp young woman. Listen to her.

I say change the name back.  You kid doesn't seem to have a problem with it and I don't see a big problem with your last names being different.  My wife didn't change her last name when we got married, and I really don't think it's a big deal. 

On an unrelated note had a friend who got married and changed his last name to his wifes because his wife (Navada) didn't want her last name to be England

Since I never changed my name in the first place, it's probably obvious which way I vote !!  You have been a loving, responsible mother and taken your childs feelings into account.  Since she is fine with it, and you want to do it, you really should give yourself permission to not feel the need to please other people on this issue.  You've done good.  You have every right to make this decision. 

your daughter sounds like a REAL gem!  hope i have such a wise funny kid some day.  sounds like the only people that don't want you to change your name are not as important as you and your daughter. 

Kids have better things to worry about that the whole name thing, trust me. Just don't get to annoyed when your children's friends come over and say "Hey Mrs.____".

I would say go back to your maiden name, but take your proffession into account too. If you work in an industry where customors have to deal with changing names all the time they tend to get a little cranky. After my step-mom got divorced she took on a job in sales, stayed with her maiden name ever since.

The hell with nay sayers who feel that you should not change your name.  Do what you want to do, after all it's your name.  Your daughter has the right attitude.