Poll on single/married/divorced BTers?

Master

1996

Woodbridge , Virginia

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Divorced... Looking for a single tri hottie... any out there?

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Master

1420

Victoria, BC

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Single ... Oh. So. Single. Not even a glimpse of a date on the horizon, never mind a fulfulling relationship.

My other single girl friends call our city the "dating hellmouth" ... I prefer "the drought-zone" ...

Getting back to it - I guess I'm kinda divorced ... my live-together fiance (we were never planning to legally marry) left me 18 months ago. Good riddance, I say.

Master

1420

Victoria, BC

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Double post ... nothing better to do on a Thursday than pad my post counts.

Edited by SpiritFire 2009-06-11 1:15 PM

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meherczeg - 2009-06-11 1:58 PM i think most BTers ARE married. a handful of recently unmarried tanners.

i guess single is what i have to use out of the choices given.

I'm single in the most literal sense. MEH here has a boyfriend, though she's not married. Though she is correct in that "taken but not married" was not a given category. I am very much single. And I don't believe there are a whole ton of other never-married single folks out on BT (ie, people under 35 who've never been married). Mostly everone seems to be married or have been married, or at least in a relationship.

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Master

1376

Chicago

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Married 7 years in August. No kids, but we do have a 5 year old black lab who we treat as our kid.

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Happily married. 18 years.

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Pro

4612

MA

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No longer young, but very happily single.

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Sherman Oaks, CA

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married 10 years (11 in oct, but who's counting?). my kids are of the furry variety - one dog, one cat and furrry is the only variety we'll be having. hubby is a runner.

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Can we just clarify that if you're in, for all intents and purposes, a "relationship" with someone, even if it's not marriage, you're NOT single? I get the whole "we're not married, I want my freedom, I can do whatever I want" mumbo-jumb (and then we wonder why the divorce rate is 50%, with all this non-commitment), but it's NOT the same as actually being single. Seeing someone consistently is not being single. Living with someone is not being single.

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Master

2571

Tiger's Den

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Happily Married. 14 years and counting...

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Champion

14571

the alamo city, Texas

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wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 2:31 PM

Can we just clarify that if you're in, for all intents and purposes, a "relationship" with someone, even if it's not marriage, you're NOT single? I get the whole "we're not married, I want my freedom, I can do whatever I want" mumbo-jumb (and then we wonder why the divorce rate is 50%, with all this non-commitment), but it's NOT the same as actually being single. Seeing someone consistently is not being single. Living with someone is not being single.

i don't consider myself single. its just the box i check on my tax forms.

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Champion

9060

Charlottesville, Virginia

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Married 15 years this October, 2 kids.

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meherczeg - 2009-06-11 2:32 PM

wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 2:31 PM

Can we just clarify that if you're in, for all intents and purposes, a "relationship" with someone, even if it's not marriage, you're NOT single? I get the whole "we're not married, I want my freedom, I can do whatever I want" mumbo-jumb (and then we wonder why the divorce rate is 50%, with all this non-commitment), but it's NOT the same as actually being single. Seeing someone consistently is not being single. Living with someone is not being single.

i don't consider myself single. its just the box i check on my tax forms.

Right, but that's not what the OP's intent was, I don't think. In terms of the OP's question, you're not single.

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Expert

1158

A Husker stuck in VA

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wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 2:31 PM

Can we just clarify that if you're in, for all intents and purposes, a "relationship" with someone, even if it's not marriage, you're NOT single? I get the whole "we're not married, I want my freedom, I can do whatever I want" mumbo-jumb (and then we wonder why the divorce rate is 50%, with all this non-commitment), but it's NOT the same as actually being single. Seeing someone consistently is not being single. Living with someone is not being single.

Funny you bring this up, I dated my wife 4 months before we got married. I had known of her for over 1 1/2 years but bumped into her in the store asked her on a date, moved in together two weeks later, and married a few months after. MIL hates me and swore from the beginning we wouldn't make it a month. HAHA!! Now I am subsidizing her mortgage and paying her power bill (I guess this is her version of a stimulus package).
Anyways, I said then and believe now, either you are right for each other or not, living together for 5 years and then marrying is no better for your marriage then dating 6 months and marrying. Personal opinion of course, not actually backed by true or FOX facts.

Sorry about the Hijack.

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Champion

14571

the alamo city, Texas

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wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 2:36 PM

meherczeg - 2009-06-11 2:32 PM

wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 2:31 PM

Can we just clarify that if you're in, for all intents and purposes, a "relationship" with someone, even if it's not marriage, you're NOT single? I get the whole "we're not married, I want my freedom, I can do whatever I want" mumbo-jumb (and then we wonder why the divorce rate is 50%, with all this non-commitment), but it's NOT the same as actually being single. Seeing someone consistently is not being single. Living with someone is not being single.

i don't consider myself single. its just the box i check on my tax forms.

Right, but that's not what the OP's intent was, I don't think. In terms of the OP's question, you're not single.

but i'm not married and not divorced. it doesn't matter the terms of her question, nobody would call neil and i married, by any stretch.

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Alpharetta, Georgia

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wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 1:31 PM

Can we just clarify that if you're in, for all intents and purposes, a "relationship" with someone, even if it's not marriage, you're NOT single? I get the whole "we're not married, I want my freedom, I can do whatever I want" mumbo-jumb (and then we wonder why the divorce rate is 50%, with all this non-commitment), but it's NOT the same as actually being single. Seeing someone consistently is not being single. Living with someone is not being single.

I guess we needed an option like Facebook has... "In a relationship"
Personally I don't think it's a huge deal to call yourself "single and in a relationship" - it's pretty crystal clear. And true.

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meherczeg - 2009-06-11 2:41 PM

wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 2:36 PM

meherczeg - 2009-06-11 2:32 PM

wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 2:31 PM

Can we just clarify that if you're in, for all intents and purposes, a "relationship" with someone, even if it's not marriage, you're NOT single? I get the whole "we're not married, I want my freedom, I can do whatever I want" mumbo-jumb (and then we wonder why the divorce rate is 50%, with all this non-commitment), but it's NOT the same as actually being single. Seeing someone consistently is not being single. Living with someone is not being single.

i don't consider myself single. its just the box i check on my tax forms.

Right, but that's not what the OP's intent was, I don't think. In terms of the OP's question, you're not single.

but i'm not married and not divorced. it doesn't matter the terms of her question, nobody would call neil and i married, by any stretch.

I'm not saying you're married. I'm just saying there is a "taken" category between "married" and "single". She didn't mention it, but certainly it's necessary to include.

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Elite

2998

Fishers, Indiana

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wurkit_gurl - 2009-06-11 1:19 PM

meherczeg - 2009-06-11 1:58 PM i think most BTers ARE married. a handful of recently unmarried tanners.

i guess single is what i have to use out of the choices given.

I'm single in the most literal sense. MEH here has a boyfriend, though she's not married. Though she is correct in that "taken but not married" was not a given category. I am very much single. And I don't believe there are a whole ton of other never-married single folks out on BT (ie, people under 35 who've never been married). Mostly everone seems to be married or have been married, or at least in a relationship.

I'm with you...I'm starting to understand one of the Army sayings of "If the Army had wanted you to have a spouse, they would have issued you one..." Apparently most everyone got issued their spouse/boyfriend before entering the Army or before-commissioning as an officer. Thus, the pickings are slim for me...though, I did have an Iraqi Police Captain ask me to marry him...I wasn't too fond of that option and turned him down.

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Master

2051

Portland, OR

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Married almost 12 years to Portland's Greatest Cable Guy. 3 kids, 2 dogs and 1 cat.

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Elite

2729

Puyallup, WA

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I am single...oh yes...very single. And bitter at times...about being single. Which I've been told is not a good attitude to become not single..but I say...oh well!! It's how I roll...(along with the rolls I have...)

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